Every time I sit down to write a post I try and think of a personal experience so that I can share something that is truly relevant and that sends out an important message to all of you. With Christmas Eve only a month away and with it being the time of “giving and receiving”, I thought I’d take the time to share with you a specific memory and message that coordinates with this special time.
It was November the 24th (this day) of last year, when I headed in to Toronto with my boyfriend to do some Christmas shopping at the Eaton Center. We walked around the mall for hours thinking of all the ways we each had to spend our money. Who was left on the checklist for Christmas gifts? Would this be enough of a present for someone? Would they like it? Should I get something for myself? …. A million questions ran through my mind but I think in those moments I forgot about what was truly important. I forgot about the people that really needed help, not just on the day to day basis but also when the holiday season comes around. After leaving the mall that day we had walked around the little neighborhoods and had taken a corner, when I looked ahead and saw a couple in their mid 30’s laying on the cold ground next to one another with only a few blankets to keep them warm. It was heartbreaking. I didn’t even hesitate to pull the twenty dollar bill out of my wallet and hand it to them. They were some of the most grateful people I have probably ever seen, I can’t even count the number of times they had said thank you and as we were leaving they said, “God bless you, have a Merry Christmas”. That moment had made my entire day and I realized how important it is to give kindness not only during the holiday season, but as often as you can, as I have never once lost anything by giving to someone else. I have only received more.
When it comes to the homeless in particular, too many people think that the money you give them goes to drugs/ alcohol or that they are just regular people trying to scam you. People may call me naive for believing otherwise but I like to always think the best of people. The twenty dollars I gave them could’ve in fact gone to something negative but it also could have gone to a warm meal, a new blanket, or hats/scarfs. I think in today’s society its so important to remember that as human beings we have the ability to spread kindness and good and that it is always what people want and need. Even just a simple hello, goodbye, or smile, could make someones day as they just simply would love to be recognized and feel as though they aren’t alone. I also know that if I were to ever end up in that position I would hope someone would do the same for me. When you spread kindness it may seem as though you are giving without receiving, but that is entirely untrue. When you commit a kind act it gives even more reason for that person to be appreciative and give that kindness on to another. Its a domino effect with more people being reached because of your one small deed than you could ever imagine. Whether its paying it forward, so that the little girl with her father sitting in the car behind you can witness kindness first hand and learn to do the same kinds of good deeds as she grows, to buying someone a coffee or lunch, to giving away an old jacket you never wear, to saying hello and giving a smile to that person in the grocery store. There are so many ways no matter how big or small that by giving even a drop of kindness can make a whole world of difference. It truly is love in disguise and with never knowing the struggles people face, why not give a little today, tomorrow, and always… If everyone where to give more kindness I think the world would be a far better place, with the ending of my post I hope each and everyone of you can take something away from this message and try and commit an act of kindness, no matter how big or small, yourself. With that end note, I’d like to leave you with a quote.
“Thousands of candles can be lighted from a single candle, and the life of the candle will not be shortened. Happiness never decreases by being SHARED.” ~Buddha
Thank you and as always if you ever need someone, I’m here.